We are in a time unlike no other. We come from a past where it had been stigmatized that if men showed emotion they were weak.
A past where it was more acceptable to bury your demons rather than seek help to vanish them all together.
While these stigmas are still prevalent, we are uncovering a new set of societal acceptances. The though in which men should hide their emotion in order to appear “manly” is left for older generations and those newer ones who are being taught the same. If you’re stuck in the same routine and feel prisoner to your past, you should read Stop Doing That Shi* by Gary John Bishop. It’s highly interactive, amusing, and straight to the point!
The truth is– it takes a greater man to show emotion like pain, happiness, and sorrow than not. It’s difficult to show any sort of “weakness”, but even harder to allow themselves assistance.
Believe it or not, men and women are not all that different in this aspect. We love, we hate, we become sad and affected by the general woes of the world.
Wearing your heart on your sleeve is not a sign of weakness–but strength. It takes a real man to articulate pain and sadness; to show happiness and joy. I recommend you read The Emotionally Unavailable Man: A Blueprint for Healing. Its compassionate and revealing and a very fair read.
When those of the past exclaim weakness as a virtue of emotion, ask how happy they truly are. Perhaps instead of allowing this alternate reality of digging your emotions deeper within and refusing to show true emotion, we should rebrand the definition of manliness.
According to Dictionary.com, Manliness is the traditional male quality of being brave and strong.
Brave and strong…
What does this really mean? What does it mean to you to be brave and strong?
To me, it means to be strong enough to fight your demons, but brave enough to know when your strength is not enough. Must we continue to see one another as a gladiator instead of a healer; a vessel of love and strength instead of wall of deprived and fallen soldiers?
We should rise up within one another as whole– not just men but women as well. Together we can help one another achieve absolute serenity.
Men: It’s okay to show that you’re hurt, that you’re scared, that you’re sad.
It’s okay to seek help from others, whether its another man, a woman, a psychologist or psychiatrist.
It’s okay to feel weak, to feel defeated, and under-loved.
It’s okay to show emotion.